The Lens of Judgment
One thing most of us can agree on is that the world feels pretty divisive these days. Personally, I see much of the divisiveness showing up through judgment.
So I felt called to share how bringing presence to my own judgment of another immediately shifted me into compassion and then into gratitude.
Transmuting Judgement
Earlier this year, I received a teaching about the misdirection of energy in judgment. I shared the teaching on my YouTube channel, which you can watch here.
Essentially, when we judge we have an attuned awareness of a misalignment towards someone or something that we deem to be wrong based on our: perspective, values, conditioning, etc.
As we are attuned to it, we just need to shift the energy from separation to unity. Understanding it is not wrong, it is simply their journey.
Since then, the theme of transmuting judgment has come up fairly often in my channelings.
Not only do these teachings come through in my channelings, but I am also presented with opportunities to embody the teachings. Hence this post!
They also usually come with some “challenges” so stay tuned til the end to get the full scoop of all how this all went down.
Let’s dive in!
Embodying the Teachings
Foam rolling my back one morning, I was thinking about how I never hear “thank you” from an individual that I know. Though they are a wonderful human being, I judged them for not being grateful.
Once I realized I was in judgment, I dove in deeper—following the guidance of the teachings. I was shocked at how quickly clarity came.
Knowing this person, I realized that they might not be expressing gratitude because they weren’t experiencing gratitude in their own life.
In that moment, the very thing I judged them for brought me into a state of compassion. They weren’t feeling grateful, so how can they express it to another.
And it wasn’t just a thought, my energy completely shifted.
In the next moment, I felt a channeling beginning to emerge around gratitude. If you’re curious, you can listen on youtube or insight timer (I will post the link once it’s available).
Releasing Expectations
Later that day, it continued to unfold. I recognized my own expectation of a thank you.
My conditioned idea of how and when gratitude “should” be expressed were shaping and feeding the judgment I had felt.
I sat with this realization in a state of compassionate curiosity.
It dawned on me that perhaps their gratitude is expressed differently than what I expect from someone.
I even realized they might see my offerings as an act of gratitude toward them—so in their eyes, there was no need to say thank you. That insight felt like an aha moment!
The Freedom of Presence in Gratitude
Friends, here is the magic of being in a state of gratitude. Whether or not you receive a thank you…it doesn’t really matter.
You can simply be grateful to offer or share with another with no expectations in return. Isn’t that the true essence of a gift?
This perspective frees us from placing self‑imposed expectations on others.
In my experience, those expectations—of others and myself—only feed back into judgment and often disappointment. Full circle moment, friends. 🙂
Furthermore, when you see each individual as being on their own unique journey, their response—or lack of response—becomes a way to understand them more deeply. This can help to also release the pattern of taking people’s words and actions personally.
A Practice to Try
So the next time you find yourself in judgment of someone, pause and notice it.
Bring a sense of presence and curiosity to it. This also helps to prevent you from judging yourself for judging!
Ask yourself: What is this moment showing me—about them and about myself—that can shift me from judgment into understanding and compassion?
When Insight Meets Challenge
I also want to be transparent: this unfolding wasn’t all sunshine and rainbows.
As I said earlier, I first fell into judgment while foam rolling my neck and back. My muscles had seized up the night before and I was in intense pain with little sleep. Little did I know how much hormones were also at play as my period honored me with its presence later that day.
This is why it felt like a gift when my energy shifted when I moved into compassion. Not only was I having this profound realization, but I personally felt better because of it.
As I rose from the floor when the channeling began to come through, I saw one of my favorite necklaces fall to the ground.
The chain broke while I was foam rolling. I quickly spiraled through various thoughts and feelings from sadness to trust. Ultimately, it was broken. I surrendered to what is and went to record the channeling.
After I finished, I went to check on Pepper and discovered he had developed another full‑blown ulcer in his eye—his fifth in four months.
Now living hours away from his opthamologist, I trusted I knew what to do and had plenty of medication. If I needed to make the long drive, I would. I surrendered to what is.
When Challange Becomes Opportunity
I share this because so many of my insights and realizations emerge in the midst of what might be labeled a challenge. And oh yes, it can often feel like a challenge!
But through this Spirit led training, I’m slowing seeing each challenge as an opportunity. At the very least, I can see it as an opportunity to witness my own growth in surrendering to what is. And when I struggle to surrender, I know where to focus my energy.
Life can be like a box of chocolates. Even if you don’t like the one you got, its still chocolate!
Until next time friends, stay curious!
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Creative Offering:
If these words serve you, let them fly.
If you teach from them, may they bloom again.
Credit is kind. Integrity is everything.
Blair is a registered dietitian, certified intuitive eating counselor, E-500 RYT and Reiki Master. She integrates spirituality with modern day science to help people heal and reclaim their relationship with their body and food.
Disclaimer:
These are my current musings — proofread and edited by AI. This content is intended for informational and inspirational purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the support of a qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional regarding any concerns or conditions.