The Mirror of Experience
People often say that our experiences—pleasant and unpleasant—can mirror the parts of ourselves that are asking to be seen, felt, and healed.
Many believe that these invitations arrive subtly—and if we ignore them, they tend to grow louder over time. Of course, this isn’t a hard rule, but think of someone who has lived through a tragedy only to later recognize it as a blessing or a wake-up call. Most near-death experiences (NDEs) attest to this very truth.
An Offering, Not a Warning
My intention is not to instill fear, shame, blame, or any lower vibrations. It’s simply an offering—a personal story that helped me embody this insight in a very real and powerful way.
Personally, I had heard this teaching before and believed it to be true, but it wasn’t until I experienced the lesson that it became an embodied truth. This is what I intend to share with you today.
A String of Subtle Injuries
A few years back, I kept hurting myself—I banged my knee, elbow, and toe. All in quick succession.
Because they happened so close together, it felt purposeful—so I dropped in to explore. I began to reflect on my state of being each time it happened. I quickly realized: each time I hurt myself, I had been stewing in anger and/or judgment toward another.
Fun fact, I started to cryptically explain the circumstances that led to those emotions—but quickly realized there’s no need to rehash the details. Reflecting on the impulse to do so, shows me there’s still more to release from those experiences—and for that, I’m grateful.
I don’t usually have interpersonal drama in my life these days, so this stood out like a neon sign flashing: “These are purposeful lessons. Proceed with love.”
Divine Timing and Tools
Thankfully, I was listening to The Book of Love and Creation by Paul Selig and The Guides. I don’t believe this was a coincidence. It literally gave me the roadmap to navigate these situations with love.
Before me was a beautiful orchestration of events and tools laid before me. I now had the power of free will to heal and grow from it. Conscious co-creation at play.
The Pain of Anger and Judgment
In reflecting on my inner state during those moments, it hit me clearly:
When I sit in anger and/or judgment of another, I’m the one who gets hurt.
The message arrived relatively gently in the three moments. Though to be fair, it was wrapped in some gnarly emotional entanglements, with wounds reacting off one another.
Who knows how that lesson might have unfolded if I hadn’t paid attention? I’m grateful I didn’t have to learn it on a grander scale.
Returning to the Reminder
I’m still very much human. I get angry. I fall into judgment. But I try my best to return to this moment—this embodied truth—as a reminder.
My experience has shown me that the more you experience inner alignment, the more you recognize when you are in misalignment. Overtime, this makes it far easier to recognize and recalibrate back into harmony.
A Call to Feel, Not Stew
The message, dear friends, is this: feel your feelings fully. And if they shift into rumination, obsession, or stewing—remember, this energy begins to hurt you. And all too often, it hurts others as well.
A Vision for What’s Possible
What if we chose to acknowledge and tend to our wounds, rather than react from them?
Can you imagine a world where each of us met our discomfort with gentle, compassionate curiosity? If we didn’t react off one another, but instead treated every pang of discomfort as an invitation to go within. To heal. To evolve.
I believe it’s possible. How about you?
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Creative Offering:
If these words serve you, let them fly.
If you teach from them, may they bloom again.
Credit is kind. Integrity is everything.
Blair is a registered dietitian, certified intuitive eating counselor, E-500 RYT and Reiki Master. She integrates spirituality with modern day science to help people heal and reclaim their relationship with their body and food.
Disclaimer:
These are my current musings — proofread and edited by AI. This content is intended for informational and inspirational purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the support of a qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional regarding any concerns or conditions.